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Does buying your wife that diamond really say to her, "I love you?" Probably not.
I believe that sex is best when it is one on one. However, is physical touch your spouse's, or significant other's, love language? What about receiving gifts? Does buying your wife that diamond really say to her, "I love you?" Or, perhaps, she really would be more satisfied with you spending some time with her in the garden.
Consider taking a few moments with your spouse, or significant other, to determine each other's love language, and then discuss ways to fill each other up with the love we all need. Mrs. Horseman and I did this, recently, in concert with discovery and sharing of our Myers-Briggs personality types, and it was very informative, even after decades of marriage.
The official Myers-Briggs tests cost a nominal fee. We originally took it as part of the pre-cana counseling required by our church before we were married. We just took it again, decades later, from licensed/trained clergy as part of a couples workshop offered by our church.
I am ENTJ and her primary love language is Quality Time. It became obvious to us through discussing these results that unless a conscious effort is made on my part, an ENTJ is highly unlikley to schedule activites she considers quality time.
She is an INTP and my love language is Words of Affirmation. It also became clear to us that unless a conscious effort is made on her part, an INTP is highly unlikely to communicate words of affirmation.
Knowing what each other needs sounds so simple. Unfortunately, like most people, we each thought that our own love language is how the other is best filled with love. Nothing could have been further from the truth!
Click here to take the free Love Language test.
Peace!
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Long monogamous relationship and sobriety.
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sorry HH but given this blog I put this at a 1. I'm sure if the only reader was your wife it deserves a 5 but... um... I just don't frickin' care.
Suposively Russia is sitting on a Big impact crater, of new even stronger Diamonds that are going to flood the market and lower prices especially for industrial stuff.. one of the Big scams with diamonds is the guy shows you a big bag full of worthless diamonds tells you he trusts you, and if you only give him 5k deposit he will let you hold onto the bag blah blah blah.. you take it to a jeweler and find out the bag ain't even worth 1k
diamond supply is limited by the cartel to the number of wedding announcements, it's all a big scam,
There is a book I read that says a virtous woman is more precious than rubies. I prefer their beauty as well. I found a woman that would love me and put up with me and I am most thankful. I have Afrikaaner friends I hunt with in South Africa and they almost shat themselves laughing when I told what I gave for 1karat diamond earrings for said wife. Live and learn but I now know where to buy diamonds in the future.
Never has never will. Fraud.
Two words - Da Beers.
The diamond proposal mythos is the product of an elaborate marketing campaign by a corrupt cartel in the 40's and 50's. Considering, I believe it is antithetical to use the product of international corporate marketing ploys to impress anyone much less a soulmate. But then again thats just my opinion they do sparkle.
Check Out: The Heartless Stone by Tom Zoellner
http://pathofmusashi.wordpress.com/2014/01/07/winter-shoes/
Little Suzy asks mommy: 'Mommy where do babies come from?'
Mommy sez;' Well, daddy puts his penis in mommys vagina, and nine months later, a baby is born.
Little Suzy sez: But mommy, I saw daddy put his penis im mommys mouth yesterday.
Mommy sez: 'That, little Suzy, is where jewlery comes from."
Hell I'll take diamonds over fiat any time. Blood Red Rubies are the rare ones.
If you know a fence then the price can be very right....try 10% of retail
Good post Hedge, glad you're on the up and up. The whole sobriety/monogamy thing isn't my cup of tea, but it's admirable.
Nice article Hedgless. It is good to talk about this stuff.
FWIW I'm an INTP gal with a spouse who longs for Words of Affirmation and I'm not too good at that. I'm much more service and gifts for appreciation. I do things like get my spouse his favorite beer and snacks, or clean off and warm up his car for him in bad weather. One of my favorite things my spouse did for me when we were dating was bring me some good Brunswick stew when I had a bad cold.
Just chatted up an amiga today and were talking about her spouse and how he doesn't save/invest. He buys her jewelry (Gifts) and she would rather have the money in the bank.
This may sound counterintuitive, but your amiga may want to consider seperate bank accounts and such. My money only becomes "our" money when I make a deposit to the joint account for monthly expenses. Ditto for the Ms. Much less stressful than when all income is commingled.
Currentlty I am taking Project Management thourgh one of the Universities here (paid for by my company) and I can tell you not only do you learn how to present yourself and lead others in your work environment, but it compltely translates into my marriage. I ahve learned how to be a listener (with sincerity) and how to communicate, even after 6 years.
good article.
I am also an ENTJ Mr. Horseman... I'm just curious, what do you also notice about yourself and your significant other? I typically end up dating introspective girls..
We fulfill each other.
My parents were very different people, but they were married for 63 years, until my dad died.
They both said they'd marry again in a heartbeat.
Me, I'm either impossible to live with or very bad at choosing!
I've now given up.
you could skip the diamond, and just tongue punch her fartbox.
unless you buy smuggled uncut stones. those are a pretty good investment
Diamonds are just one more thing manipulated by the Rothschilds. Just sayin'!
When supply is artificially controlled by a cartel - and demand boosted through manipulative (if brilliant) advertising and marketing, it's easy to jack up prices.
Diamonds are not particularly rare - even the 'rare' colored and clear stones are not as rare as they are made out to be (except fot the HUGE and hugely expensive) ones. I worked with someone married to a major figure in the diamond trade. You could get anything through her for less than HALF the 'discount' price - showing what the retail mark-up was. Want to lose money - buy diamonds.
BRAINWASHING by the media and their interests.
spent 6 years started panning gold to make gold engagement ring for wife to be(hadn't met her yet) Time finally came, she wanted platinum. Still panning the shiney though. Its all mine now and I need a lot larger bottle!
i know some places that would bug out your eyes. but i like running a dredge. i know where it is in the creeks in north and south carolina, so i don't even have to have a boating accident.
so you are one of those "catch and release" type dredgers.
(Mrs. Profit and I have been married 50 years. This is my toast to my son and his fiance.)
It is my pleasure to propose a toast to Suzi and Ian on the eve of their wedding.
Tomorrow, when wedlock commences, the history of their romance continues.
We have seen Suzi and Ian good natured, always glad to see each other, and sweet to each other in conversation.
May they always remain so.
May they remain affable, patient, discreet and forgiving with respect to each other’s frailties and ficklenesses.
May they remain joyful with respect to each other’s strengths and triumphs, --to the end of their lives, --and may they gain the wisdom that there is no happiness in life exceeding that of mutual satisfaction in marriage.
With our best wishes, --Here’s to Suzi and Ian.
trichotil - thanks for the link - nice historical perspective - 1982 vintage - since this time the chinese have developed (maybe thru marketing) a huge appetite for large stones. the article says it is hard to profitably sell a stone but a 5ct bought in 2002 for 100k would now cost 250k (albeit the bid is likely 175k)...so not a great investment but maybe a 5.25% annualized return...and that might just be a 1x surge similar to what has happened in first growth wines... over nearly 25yrs though a 1.5ct stone is basically at the same 12-14k price...
tell you what stones I would invest in if I felt like it one day (not today):
rubies, lapis lazuli, jade. In Asia jade is valued as much as gold, in the middle east lapis lazuli can be valued similarly.
Rubies have some good physical properties other gems don't. Sapphires similarly so.
Diamonds? Pfffft, never. Not even the fancy colored diamonds.
Her girlfriends will REALLY like a nice rock.
My wife never got a diamond engagement ring. Even now when it's quite affordable we think there are better places to spend. Having said that, some 30 odd years ago my then fiancee and I were out kicking around for the day and stopped at a flea market. Bought a glass ring as a joke - $6, bargained down from $8. She forgot she had it on when she went back to her primarily women's college. Dining hall that night - SCREECHES and SCREAMS- OMG look at the size.... it's a really good stone too.... what BS. She didn't say a thing and let all the self-appointed experts make fools of themselves..... BTW - her finger was already turning green from the metal. Engagement rings are all about impressing the others on how much your man is willing to pay for you. "I rate 4 cows - you got only 2 goats....."
Some guys need big diamonds. Some don't.
Are you sure you spelled that noun correctly?
What do women want?
Who cares...
I have a feeling you won't do well on the test.
you're positively correct; and, furthermore, it won't reflect well on his permanant record.
NYFrankie...c'est mon ami...and though he -- being the independent-minded sort -- probably doesn't approve of janus (or anyone else) covering his rear-flank, i'm a gonna do it anyway.
we've heard just about enough of what women want...and in giving them all of this and the over-abundance of whatever expectation we may potentially project therewith, we're left with a gander of ill-tempered fowl, flocking to and fro; and to which, whatever way the wind will blow, still they flit about seeking to suffuse their discontent with whatsoever bit of the hippest transient psycho-anarchy may (or may not) necessarily find favor with their's, the fairer sex's apoplectic consternation...by which i mean, we've succeded only in exacerbating the underlying condition -- to wit: woman seeks after MAN (the kind they mock in conventional media).
i got my wife a brick outta my back yard.... for xmas (with luv).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PwIN_UdCap0
janus is sick of the bullshit.
i am the Sun, bitches...you are the Moon -- you swoon to MY magnetic force.
woman, I AM MAN, you sway to MY gravity. i'd much sooner countenance solitude than the counsel of a contentious woman.
as Solomon said: "it is better to occupy the corner of an attic than to share a mansion with a contentious woman"
and, amorica, you've bred a few generations of contentious women...may their wombs be barren till they learn -- and in the mean-time, may they sourly learn (and, lest i fail to mention, i'll be there to prick you bitches wild-like whilst you wallow in want for MAN) but, go on reading your feminist doggerel and sundry pussy-power diatribes.
much obliged for the free pussy, 'feminist' whores (and i look forward to many, many more)
take, take, take...i will. i won't fight. i will abide; remain the same; wait and wait; and then, well, consume.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CV7LGTTU1R8
you feminists have laid before me a smorgasborg...i cannot thank you enough.
again, if you worthless fuckers are god; janus is satan:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pEq8DBxm0J4
i am the Sun, and the Air/
of a shyness that is criminally broken/
...just shut your mouth.
how can you say/
i go about things the wrong way/
i am human/
and i need to be loved/
just like everybody else does,
janus
A minor point but: What George Michael wants is not what I want.
Wake me up before you blow-blow
Don't leave me hangin' on like a ho-mo ...
I buy gun she gets jewelry of equal or lesser value. The marriage plan that lasts a lifetime and the kids and grankids of both sexes will appreciate it.
We work on the same plan, my last duck boat cost me a "Pandora" bracelet. Fair trade on my part!
you won the trade
That and a good cleaning of her scuppers.
Here in high desert land turquoise and silver work every time.
The divorce rate tells us that, in the end, they probably work less than half of the time.
All kidding aside HH, trying to find a long term mate in northern New Mexico is a completely insane proposition. Think temp jobs, we have a saying in Madrid, "you don't lose your girlfriend, you lose your turn". Good thing we're all stealy hearted pirates.
Snifff, no I'm not fucking crying....
even worse if you're gay. "can't even be gay anymore in America." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2ds8tCtomQ loves too damn easy...and there's always "just another lawyer" as they say. stupid America..."you keep electing them. Next time try a General or an Actor. They're incapable of "an Agenda." Bill and Hillary..."tow for the price of a trillion." PRICELESS!
What's love got to do with it?...
or you can consider a nice sapphire, or tanzanite...look me up. Give her a few carats and she'll take care of yours.....
The real diamonds' slogan:
Diamonds - That'll shut 'er up.
Ron White, aka: "Tater Salad".
"Every kiss begins with Kay" - the lack of outrage of this jingle is tacit admission of world's oldest profession.
I'd gladly give her $200 a pop but she would be offended and would be unable to use it as leverage.
Sex is leverage. Love is most commonly just a continued satisfaction of one's needs.
Shakespear's definition of love in his Sonnet #116 and all else is just political self-gratification.
Diamonds...there has never been a better time to start your pre-payment plan for divorce.
The best financial advice you can ever get is..
Have one wife.