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Does buying your wife that diamond really say to her, "I love you?" Probably not.
I believe that sex is best when it is one on one. However, is physical touch your spouse's, or significant other's, love language? What about receiving gifts? Does buying your wife that diamond really say to her, "I love you?" Or, perhaps, she really would be more satisfied with you spending some time with her in the garden.
Consider taking a few moments with your spouse, or significant other, to determine each other's love language, and then discuss ways to fill each other up with the love we all need. Mrs. Horseman and I did this, recently, in concert with discovery and sharing of our Myers-Briggs personality types, and it was very informative, even after decades of marriage.
The official Myers-Briggs tests cost a nominal fee. We originally took it as part of the pre-cana counseling required by our church before we were married. We just took it again, decades later, from licensed/trained clergy as part of a couples workshop offered by our church.
I am ENTJ and her primary love language is Quality Time. It became obvious to us through discussing these results that unless a conscious effort is made on my part, an ENTJ is highly unlikley to schedule activites she considers quality time.
She is an INTP and my love language is Words of Affirmation. It also became clear to us that unless a conscious effort is made on her part, an INTP is highly unlikely to communicate words of affirmation.
Knowing what each other needs sounds so simple. Unfortunately, like most people, we each thought that our own love language is how the other is best filled with love. Nothing could have been further from the truth!
Click here to take the free Love Language test.
Peace!
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One too many, IMHO.
If I could go back to my teenage self and say two words, and only two, they would be STAY SINGLE.
Maybe I'm jaded.
I'm curious, what church would issue a personality/ combat ability compatibility test?
combat ability was supposed to be strike through.... fail.
The Episcopal Church provided/required free pre-marital counseling as a young engaged couple. There was some very helpful information.
You are obviously a person who thinks carefully about the world and your place in it, and that of others.
I'd like to flatter myself and claim to do likewise.
I was brought up Anglican - went to a church school - my mum, who was very good at embroidery, did all the fancy altar stuff for the local church - I even got to fill up the time capsule that went under the first stone laid down when the church was built, so I wasn't exactly lacking in religious input, but after observing things carefully and (not surprisingly) coldly logically I became an atheist.
As it is impossible to put oneself in someone elses position, I would not try to tell you that you are wrong, or claim that I am right, but I always wonder how anyone could take part in a man-made organized religion, given the damage those institutions have caused to the people of planet earth.
But then, I would say, if it works for you, and doesn't hurt anyone else, keep doing it.
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when will you be releasing your 12-step program, version 2.0, now with bitcoin!
I've always appreciated your candor and desire to help others.
Thank you.
P.S. I still have your survival guide bookmarked.
Me too, on all three statements. I've sent HH's lists out to friends and family before (not that they listen mind you).
The title and content of one of his articles has always stayed with me "We are returning to a time in history where it is a common occurance to fight for one's life."
http://www.zerohedge.com/contributed/2012-19-10/fear-we-are-returning-time-history-where-it-common-occurrence-fight-ones-life
Keep up the great content, HH! This article is another keeper.
Hmmmm, what would the basic WS sociopath score on that test?
Diamonds, like the stock market, are driven by marketing hype.
Here's someone that gets it.
http://www.deathandtaxesmag.com/211355/all-your-diamonds-are-made-of-lie...
Fantastic article. Thanks for the link! This is why I love the Millennials.
Pure marketing BS.
One jewelry chain is advertising 'chocolate' diamonds on TV.
WTF?!? - you mean the crappy BROWN SHIT diamonds that NOBODY WANTED because they were too UGLY? the diamonds they iused for industrial purposes are now 'chocolate' diamonds?!?!?
But you can picture the room where this was conceived.
'We can get all these crap diamonds really cheap. BUT NOBODY will buy them - they're BROWN for God's sake! Brown diamonds..... how do we sell brown diamonds?... This one looks like a rat turd.... or a piece of chocolate Women like chocolate, right? Let's play off that. 'Chocolate' diamonds....... two of the things women like most. Diamonds and CHOCOLATE. Make them seem like they're rare and DESIRABLE - RARE...... Copyright the name and advertise the crap out of them and WE will be the only place to get them.
BWAHAAAAAAA....... Barnum underestimated the gullibility of the American public.
Hey, why not?
Chocolate diamonds during the chocolate presidency --- one as low-quality as the others.
Makes sense to me.
Mrs. Rainman has kept me on a credit-based love system for decades. I let her buy something she wants and I earn one credit. I fuck up and lose two credits. I'll never get out of the hole.
Sounds like usuary, debt-based, fractional reserve banking... Go to a more honest system
You mean you'll never get in the hole, and never get out of debt.
Wow!
Really?
Just about the stupidest fucking ZH post "eva."
Okay, so you don't even have a wife. It's nothing to get all constipated about.
this is a FINANCE site not marriage counselling.
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oh he has a "wife". His drinkin buddy Gary after 14 MGD's fills that void.
Usually bruise her colon to remind her of my love for her.
Smokin hot and thanks me every time...
I've often found nothing can beat a good Donkey Punch
diamond are neither valuable nor scarce,
just another scam. wouldnt trade my barn full of free
wood for any of them. and ch33s3popes are involved in the trade so it must be legit eh?
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/1982/02/have-you-ever-tried-...
Into my files. Thanks for the link!
So true
Just another scam by "The Tribe"
Is that diamond mounted solidly in on an ounce of refined gold?
likewise HH...
I remain long a dependable spouse (and arable land, physical assets of all sorts, and a dependable tribe).
The one thing I have learned (well, one of many things) is that you never, ever pay retail for jewelry. The markup is well over 300%. I enjoy buying things for my wife, and once I learned how to find it and buy it right, I can her some nice pieces for surprisingly reasonable cost. It also could make good bribe material if one needs to cross a border on the way out of Dodge.
Gotta love it... "Or, perhaps, she really would be more satisfied with you spending some time with her in the garden."
I dunno about you, but my wife likes doing it in the garden. /s
Nice article Hedgeless!
DeBeers love language of all times.