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Why Have Young People In Japan Stopped Having Sex?
Japan's under-40s appear to be losing interest in conventional relationships. Millions aren't even dating, and increasing numbers can't be bothered with sex. For their government, "celibacy syndrome" is part of a looming national catastrophe. Japan already has one of the world's lowest birth rates. As The Guardian reports, 45% of Japanese women aged 16-24 are "not interested in or despise sexual contact". More than a quarter of men feel the same way. Is Japan providing a glimpse of all our futures? Many of the shifts there are occurring in other advanced nations, too. Across urban Asia, Europe and America, people are marrying later or not at all, birth rates are falling, single-occupant households are on the rise and, in countries where economic recession is worst, young people are living at home...
Via The Guardian,
Ai Aoyama is a sex and relationship counsellor who works out of her narrow three-storey home on a Tokyo back street... she did "all the usual things" like tying people up and dripping hot wax on their nipples. Her work today, she says, is far more challenging. Aoyama, 52, is trying to cure what Japan's media calls sekkusu shinai shokogun, or "celibacy syndrome".
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Japan's under-40s appear to be losing interest in conventional relationships. Millions aren't even dating, and increasing numbers can't be bothered with sex. For their government, "celibacy syndrome" is part of a looming national catastrophe. Japan already has one of the world's lowest birth rates. Its population of 126 million, which has been shrinking for the past decade, is projected to plunge a further one-third by 2060. Aoyama believes the country is experiencing "a flight from human intimacy" – and it's partly the government's fault.
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The number of single people has reached a record high. A survey in 2011 found that 61% of unmarried men and 49% of women aged 18-34 were not in any kind of romantic relationship, a rise of almost 10% from five years earlier. Another study found that a third of people under 30 had never dated at all. (There are no figures for same-sex relationships.) Although there has long been a pragmatic separation of love and sex in Japan – a country mostly free of religious morals – sex fares no better. A survey earlier this year by the Japan Family Planning Association (JFPA) found that 45% of women aged 16-24 "were not interested in or despised sexual contact". More than a quarter of men felt the same way.
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Official alarmism doesn't help. Fewer babies were born here in 2012 than any year on record. (This was also the year, as the number of elderly people shoots up, that adult incontinence pants outsold baby nappies in Japan for the first time.) Kunio Kitamura, head of the JFPA, claims the demographic crisis is so serious that Japan "might eventually perish into extinction".
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"Both men and women say to me they don't see the point of love. They don't believe it can lead anywhere," says Aoyama. "Relationships have become too hard."
Marriage has become a minefield of unattractive choices. Japanese men have become less career-driven, and less solvent, as lifetime job security has waned. Japanese women have become more independent and ambitious.
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Aoyama says the sexes, especially in Japan's giant cities, are "spiralling away from each other". Lacking long-term shared goals, many are turning to what she terms "Pot Noodle love" – easy or instant gratification, in the form of casual sex, short-term trysts and the usual technological suspects: online porn, virtual-reality "girlfriends", anime cartoons. Or else they're opting out altogether and replacing love and sex with other urban pastimes.
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Aoyama cites one man in his early 30s, a virgin, who can't get sexually aroused unless he watches female robots on a game similar to Power Rangers.
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Mendokusai translates loosely as "Too troublesome" or "I can't be bothered". It's the word I hear both sexes use most often when they talk about their relationship phobia. Romantic commitment seems to represent burden and drudgery, from the exorbitant costs of buying property in Japan to the uncertain expectations of a spouse and in-laws. And the centuries-old belief that the purpose of marriage is to produce children endures. Japan's Institute of Population and Social Security reports an astonishing 90% of young women believe that staying single is "preferable to what they imagine marriage to be like".
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The sense of crushing obligation affects men just as much. Satoru Kishino, 31, belongs to a large tribe of men under 40 who are engaging in a kind of passive rebellion against traditional Japanese masculinity. Amid the recession and unsteady wages, men like Kishino feel that the pressure on them to be breadwinning economic warriors for a wife and family is unrealistic. They are rejecting the pursuit of both career and romantic success.
"It's too troublesome," says Kishino, when I ask why he's not interested in having a girlfriend. "I don't earn a huge salary to go on dates and I don't want the responsibility of a woman hoping it might lead to marriage." Japan's media, which has a name for every social kink, refers to men like Kishino as "herbivores" or soshoku danshi (literally, "grass-eating men"). Kishino says he doesn't mind the label because it's become so commonplace. He defines it as "a heterosexual man for whom relationships and sex are unimportant".
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Is Japan providing a glimpse of all our futures? Many of the shifts there are occurring in other advanced nations, too. Across urban Asia, Europe and America, people are marrying later or not at all, birth rates are falling, single-occupant households are on the rise and, in countries where economic recession is worst, young people are living at home.
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"Gradually but relentlessly, Japan is evolving into a type of society whose contours and workings have only been contemplated in science fiction,"
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Japan's 20-somethings are the age group to watch. Most are still too young to have concrete future plans, but projections for them are already laid out. According to the government's population institute, women in their early 20s today have a one-in-four chance of never marrying. Their chances of remaining childless are even higher: almost 40%.
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"Japan has developed incredibly sophisticated virtual worlds and online communication systems. Its smart phone apps are the world's most imaginative." Kelts says the need to escape into private, virtual worlds in Japan stems from the fact that it's an overcrowded nation with limited physical space. But he also believes the rest of the world is not far behind.
Getting back to basics, former dominatrix Ai Aoyama – Queen Love – is determined to educate her clients on the value of "skin-to-skin, heart-to-heart" intimacy. She accepts that technology will shape the future, but says society must ensure it doesn't take over. "It's not healthy that people are becoming so physically disconnected from each other," she says. "Sex with another person is a human need that produces feel-good hormones and helps people to function better in their daily lives."
Aoyama says she sees daily that people crave human warmth, even if they don't want the hassle of marriage or a long-term relationship. She berates the government for "making it hard for single people to live however they want" and for "whipping up fear about the falling birth rate". Whipping up fear in people, she says, doesn't help anyone. And that's from a woman who knows a bit about whipping.
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Why would anyone want to breed right now?
Work like crazy to get the money for extremely inflated costs of both your living and child's care and that education. Have the child rised by hired help and toxic school system, as you're never around - working. Get into a bind, where your costs of living are massive and you're in debt - so that even if you're treated as a slave, you'll never quit or try other activity - you're so far in that your paycheck each month becomes indispensible. Who would do this?
And on top of these realities, there's consumerist expectations of more and better around every corner. For low income couple with a baby it makes perfect sense to DOWNGRADE expenditures. Stay in small flat longer, use the old car as long as it's servicable, spend less on travel etc. But no - absolutely not. With the baby on the way it's time to buy the dream house, get in debt up to your necks and use this house only as a bedroom in between work. Misery ensues.
Than there's a legal explosive planted on every husband, with wife in control of ignition. When she's unhappy (for the above reasons, or others) she can blow him up, get quite a lot of money, children and get on the govt dole if need be. So she has a way out of this, with the guy locked in place. Now that's a perfect environment to enjoy life and bring this joy to newly formed, curious human beings that you're raising in peace and safety.
real estate is unaffordable
Natural Selection. "On a long enough timeline the survival rate for everyone drops to zero". Looks like Japan is getting closer to zero.
Jean Baudrillard argued what in store for us is the end of the real and the end of us back in the 80s. Alvin Toffler predicted the end of marriage back in the early 90s. There is nothing wrong.
"Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” - John Lennon
Getting married? Congratulations on the best decision and worst mistake you'll ever make!
I am available to travel to Japan to lend my sexual expertise to downtrodden ladies.
I guarantee results, or one mini-lot of JPY/USD back!
:)
Oh so that would be the same reason, as when the Guardian ran the same story in 2007;
http://www.theguardian.com/world/2007/mar/14/japan.justinmccurry
Even for the liberal elite, it would seem that sex sells.
Well I never intended to get married or have kids and I am still in this state at 55
I an living with a terrific girl 20 years younger who has her own daughter, a lovely girl. So by not trying to do any of the typical things people do, I feel I've hit the jackpot. Maybe if we all just gave up on trying to control our live they would work ok for us in the end.
Max
Bearish for rubber producers.
Bullish for robots! fuckingmachines.com
Can you blame them...Who wants a three-headed baby?
Any mention of BPA, glyphosphate? Why not?
www.infowars.com www.prisonplanet.com
For anyone who has ever been there, Tokyo at least Japan, is F'd up sexually. Its hyper-sexual in its advertising and marketing, and you cant through a stone without hitting a jack shack. The societal strains are unbelievable, some of the folks I know commute 2+ hours each way by train to work a 10 hour day lining up match sticks, why because culturally you cant leave until the boss does even if you have nothing to do. The Men cant afford Japanese women, and Japanese women are worse than american women in always looking for the bigger better deal.
The biggest difference is that culturally they dont have welfare queens. If America did not have have its minorities there would be ZERO difference in population growth.
Do they really have establishments in Japan where the men pick a girl, pick a dish for her to eat, pay a bunch of money, then come back the next day and pick up a container of the shit the girl made after eatting the food the guy ordered? I don't even want to ask what they do with it, but... what do they do with it? PS: How can we combine the Japansese-shit trend with selling-body-parts trend http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2013-10-20/strapped-cash-heres-price-list-... (for fun and profit)?
"and Japanese women are worse than american women in always looking for the bigger better deal"
That's the real core problem right there.
BBD's are a marriage-killer. Men smarten up & realize BBD's are the norm & the norm is gonna kill their already exhausted lives. Not worth the trouble. HOWEVER, other women around the world could be. Time to move.
Send those guys over here to any Wal-Mart to FIND THAT WHALE ON THE RASCAL TOOLING AROUND THE FROZEN FOOD SECTION!!
That will do the trick....those guys will be jerkin in the isles!
HOW THE FUCK ARE YOU GONNA SUPPORT NEW KIDS IN THIS ECONOMIC WORLD?
Who needs reproduction and social relationships when GOVERNMENT IS THE ANSWER!
Japan is a faggot's wet dream. What Japan needs is moar faggot's in government and media to promote sustainability.
"M4M NSA!"
I think you truly don't understand how much that is NOT compatible with Japan's culture.
Japan is the closest thing to an alien civilization we have on this planet.
Pretty sure the uberfatties running drone-wars across the planet qualify.
Apparently, you are a bit more familiar with native Japanese than most. Whatever else they are, they are by far the most racist group on the planet that I know of. They think they are the best of breed and therefore the rightful rulers of this planet, which was their ultimate goal of WWII. They would have turned on the Germans at a well timed point if the war had gone the other way. Most people have no idea what the Japanese really think of non-Japanese people. They need to be watched carefully and cautiously. The current movement to re-militarize their state is very troubling, regardless of their stated intentions. They have probably realized by now that they will be needing a new site to relocate their very contaminated homeland to. This is bad news for anyone with a site the Japanese feel is suitable for their needs. This sounds absurd, unless you have a realistic idea of how the Japanese think. They have beautiful women, wide smiles, and hands outstretched, but the hand you do not see holds a poisoned dagger. Look at some of the atrocities they committed leading up to and during WWII. The Chinese have not forgotten, and neither should anyone else.
Given the popularity of erectile dysfunction drugs and the omnipresence of online porn... it seems Western countries are not far behind in the eschewing of heterosexual sex invloving 2 people.
Centuries of selective breeding and culling with katanas have created a race with very low testosterone levels. This made them very obedient, so rape and violent crime are almost nonexistent in Japan.
Complementing this was a rigid social matrix, where men fought wars, worked, married, and fathered children not because they wanted to, but because it was expected of them, and women likewise tended the home and raised children.
When the social matrix breaks down, people revert to their natural impulses. In America, that means violent men and promiscuous women. In Japan, not so much.
So half of Japanese women will be, Returned Unopened.
Are they discount priced on Amazon.com?
In other news.....
New Jerseys gay marriage certificates boomed this morning..
http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2013/10/21/new-jersey-formally-recognizes-same-sex-marriages/
This doesn’t surprise me, the culture is over-sexed. Frankly there is nowhere else to go with this franchise. Everything has been done. At the heart of the sex industry is the "titillating" effect. Its hard-wired into all of us because that is the primary lever nature pulls-on to stimulate reproduction. But like everything, particularly ubiquitous sex, it dulls the senses, literally in this case. Surf porn for a couple of months and you'll see everything and anything that is possible. After the initial titillating reaction, dullness slowly sets in and fixes must be met with ever increasing potency resulting in diminishing returns. 3-some over 18 coed takes 25 dildos or golden showered cougar scat fest...it’s like watching too many horror flicks, over time nothing will shock you. Frankly, this should be a welcomed event, think of where sex has to go from here in order to be edgy or provocative...well, you have this movie called "zoo", hailed at cannes, which is about human sex with horses and pedophilia.
Sounds just like the US debt based economy which requires ever increasing amounts of stimulus (pun intended) in order to function.
Japan should know how lucky it is. Stable or declining population numbers on a finite planet is something that any nation should envy. Where I live the numbers would be stable but for a succession of one entitlement obsessed government after another allowing hoards of immigrants in from the very areas that have made cesspits of their native land with mindless overpopulating.
That reminded me of Calhoun's narcissistic asexual mice that survived his overpopulation experiments.
http://www.cabinetmagazine.org/issues/42/wiles.php
The inevitable future is coming, hehe.
There's a difference between not having sex and not breeding, Japan could cut their population in half through natural attrition and still make the same number of widgets.
The problem is a declining population has limited debt capacity.
Government debt is an illusion if the Treasury would print, and the debt ceiling is there to enforce fiscal discipline, which it hasn't been doing much of. That's just another reason for the Treasury to print. From there you eliminate income taxes for consumption taxes while government prints when anything more needs to be done, since inflation is really a consumption tax albeit spread out a bit more evenly. And when you stop and think about it, that's more fair and more free enterprising than a specific consumption tax.
Stuff of nonsense.
Fertility and live births are also affected by radiation exposure.
The Japanese gov't is covering up the Fukushima story the way our media covers up for the Fed.
WOMEN DONT COOK NO MO. ENOUGH SAID.
It's probably too late to get in on the ground floor in the Japanese adult novelty industry.