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7 Harsh Realities Of Life Millennials Need To Understand

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Submitted by The Libertarian Republic, via The Burning Platform blog,

Millennials.

They may not yet be the present, but they’re certainly the future. These young, uninitiated minds will someday soon become our politicians, doctors, scientists, chefs, television producers, fashion designers, manufacturers, and, one would hope, the new proponents of liberty. But are they ready for it?

Time after time, particularly on college campuses, millennials have proven to be little more than entitled, spoiled, anti-intellectual brats who place far too much emphasis on feelings and nowhere near enough emphasis on critical thinking. To the millennial, words are cause for the creation of safe spaces, alternative ideas must be stifled, and anything they perceive to be a microaggression is enough to send them spiraling into a state of mental distress.

It’s time millennials understood these 7 harsh realities of life so we don’t end up with a generation of gutless adult babies running the show.

1. Your Feelings Are Largely Irrelevant

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Seriously, nobody who has already graduated college cares about your feelings. That means that when you complain to your boss because your co-worker mis-gendered you, he’s probably not going to bend over backwards to bandage your wounds. Given feelings are entirely subjective in nature, it’s completely unreasonable to demand everyone tip-toe around you to prevent yours from being hurt. The reality is that people will offend you and hurt your feelings, and they won’t stop to mop up your tears because they shouldn’t have to. Learning to accept criticism, alternative viewpoints, and even outright insults will make you happier in the long run than routinely playing the victim card.

 

2. You Cannot Be Whatever You Want To Be

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This is a comforting lie parents have started telling their children to boost their morale in school. Unfortunately, millennials are now convinced it’s true, especially as society has now decided to push this narrative as well. The reality is if you’re 17 years old and still can’t figure out basic division, you’re not going to be a rocket scientist. If you’re overweight and unattractive, you’re not going to be the quarterback’s prom date. If you lack fine motor skills, you’re not going to be a heart surgeon. It’s okay to accept that you cannot be whatever you want to be. In fact, once you accept this, you’ll be able to focus on the things you can be — the things you really are talented at.

3. Gender Studies Is A Waste Of Money

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You heard me. While some millennials taking useless degrees will claim they’re beneficial for teaching or research positions, the reality is that they just put themselves several thousands dollars in debt to learn how to be a professional victim. While you’re struggling to make ends meet after graduation because nobody who pays more than minimum wage is interested in your qualifications and you’re drowning in student loan debt, be sure to check out the next harsh reality before you start complaining.

4. If You Live In America, You’re Already In The 1%

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That’s right. Even though you work at McDonald’s for minimum wage because you got a useless, outrageously expensive college degree, you’re still far better off than the vast majority of the planet. Don’t believe me? Fly to Uganda and check out the living conditions there. Fly to China, Saudi Arabia, North Korea, Iran, Russia, and even European countries like Ukraine and Greece, and you’ll quickly discover just how well-off you really are. While it may be cool these days to dump on capitalism, it’s the only reason you aren’t already worse off.

5. You Don’t Have A Right To It Just Because You Exist

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That includes healthcare, guaranteed income, and somewhere to live. Just because you’re here and breathing doesn’t mean society owes you anything. Like the billions of people who lived before you, working hard is a better guarantor of wealth and the ability to comfortably take care of yourself than begging society or the government to do it for you. Demanding healthcare be a right, for example, is equivalent to demanding government force the taxpayer to pay for it. While that may seem like a good idea in theory, it only leads to rationing of care when costs become unsustainable, which negatively impacts not just your health, but everyone else’s, too.

6. You DO Have The Right To Live As You Please But Not To Demand People Accept It

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By contrast, you do have the right to live however you please, so long as it’s within the confines of the law. If you want to cross-dress, smoke marijuana, drink lots of alcohol, have lots of sex, and, yes, even go to school for gender studies, then by all means, go for it. Government should not be allowed to legislate people’s behavior as long as it doesn’t infringe upon someone else’s rights, but that doesn’t mean society isn’t allowed to have an opinion. You don’t have the right to demand people keep their opinions about your lifestyle to themselves, especially if you’re open and public about it. I have as much of a right to comment on the way you live your life as you do to actually live it. Your feelings are not a protected right, but my speech is.

7. The Only Safe Space Is Your Home

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No matter where you go in life, someone will be there to offend you. Maybe it’s a joke you overheard on vacation, a spat at the office, or a difference of opinion with someone in line at the grocery store. Inevitably, someone will offend you and your values. If you cannot handle that without losing control of your emotions and reverting back to your “safe space” away from the harmful words of others, then you’re best to just stay put at home. Remember, though: if people in the outside world scare you, people on the internet will downright terrify you. It’s probably best to just accept these harsh realities of life and go out into the world prepared to confront them wherever they may be waiting.

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Thu, 03/10/2016 - 17:38 | 7297323 Soul Glow
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Also, the boomers sucked all wealth dry, there will be no SSTF, and you will work until you die.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 17:43 | 7297356 m11nine
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Thank you, boomers are assholes too, so are their parents who won the war and proceeded to spend all the money pulled forward a hundred years from the millenials children's children.  

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 17:50 | 7297392 NOTaREALmerican
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Actually, they lost the war.    The US turned into the police state they were allegedy fighting.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 17:57 | 7297434 Gaius Frakkin' ...
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So who birthed and raised the millennials?

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 18:00 | 7297450 HopefulCynical
Thu, 03/10/2016 - 18:03 | 7297458 Gaius Frakkin' ...
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Systematic failure my brothers and sisters... systematic failure. Just repeat after me... systematic failure.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 18:06 | 7297473 JRobby
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It's not coming back. Get used to it. Take Yellen's advice: open a (cash) business

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 18:29 | 7297603 greenskeeper carl
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That bit about SS would make an important number 8. You are going to pay into SS and Medicare your entire working lives to fund the retirement of your parents and grandparents, and all the promises you hear about it are lies, as it won't exist in anything likes it's present form when you retire. Your parents and grandparents have borrowed your future chances at prosperity to fund their retirement now, and unless you come together as a group and demand an end to it, there's nothing you can do about it.

While I agree millennials are an incredibly entitled generation(and yes I am one) they haven't (yet) stolen the future wealth of the next couple generations.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 18:52 | 7297703 Stuck on Zero
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Most millenials already know all these things.  The baby boomers need these lessons.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 18:56 | 7297718 Nutsack
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This artickles bee raycessists

p.s. Stuck on Stupid, that was incredibly dumb. This article was spot on.  The truth hurts, huh?

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 19:07 | 7297748 Stainless Steel Rat
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1.) You will never own a home.

2.) You will never pay off your student debt.

3.) You will never move out of your parents home.

4.) You will never be employed full time.

5.) Your shit service-job will have nothing to do with your degree.

6.) You will never have the resources to have children.

7.) Of fucking course this was the plan.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 19:19 | 7297784 The Alarmist
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" These young, uninitiated minds will someday soon become our politicians, doctors, scientists, chefs, television producers, fashion designers, manufacturers ..."

That will be the privileged children of the 1% ... the rest will be competing with cheap, imported foreigners to see who gets the underpaid privilege to snuff us in our sleep at the old folks centers we will all have to live in because the 1% have stripped us of our assets.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 22:43 | 7298656 Father Thyme
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One song shall rule them all.

 

 

You've got to fight

For the right

To paaaaaaaarty!

 

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 23:21 | 7298794 Chris Dakota
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My ode to millenials is

Reverse Mortgages

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 23:30 | 7298826 Chris Dakota
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China sucked the wealth dry of the entire West.

Vote Trump

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 03:21 | 7299335 All Risk No Reward
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The Debt-Money Monopolists run a zero-sum game debt-money system that systematically impoverishes society through engineered bubbles and busts and you will grow up during the biggest bust in human history.

Everyone is in denial, and the River Denial flows into the Ocean of Consequence. If it makes you feel better, most of the people who think they will avoid the collapse will be punched in the mouth with it - so we can all share the misery together.

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 10:33 | 7299986 Four chan
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stacks of gold and siver are still on sale is all i know for sure.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 19:29 | 7297810 Transformer
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The Social Security Trust Fund was stolen by politicians.  They took $2.6Trillion and spent it on other things, mostly buying votes.  They left worthless IOU's in it's place that are not even treasury bonds.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 19:56 | 7297898 The Alarmist
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Social Security Trust Fund ... I choked on a little vomit when I read that.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 19:43 | 7297843 Majestic12
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Wow!  Everyone here took the bait.

The only thing to note is that "nobody" here is in the 1% of America.

Wake up...more 99% against the 99%, while the 1% laughs all the way to the bank!

Stop being distracted with backstabbing and bullshit "differences"...

With "most" of us being "fucked" daily...we're all in the same boat...

Time to frag the "Captain"...

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 19:58 | 7297912 The Alarmist
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Frag the Captain?  You've gotta start with the Second Lewie before you can get to the Captain, otherwise that asshat is going to be the next Captain.

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 03:54 | 7299348 WOAR
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Save your breath, guys. Nobody here is willing to or in a postion to "frag the captain."

A lot of these guys would rather sit on their asses and stack shit for themselves than do anything big for each other.

"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."

And so nothing happens, and the whole shebang goes down the tubes when TPTB decide it's going to go down the tubes...and everyone else gets flushed with it.

 

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 19:59 | 7297918 nmewn
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Well, ok.

But ya gotta admit its a real hoot fuckin with all these brainwashed little pricks running around saying...

"Boomers spent/took all the money!"

Its like WTF are they talking about, what does that even mean? They're not "entitled" to anything, including money. Work for it like I did, no matter what kind of fucked up system created it.

Idiots.

Well, ok, again...sorry.

Idiots.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 21:09 | 7298234 Ballin D
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What was the US govt debt in the 60's?  What about now?  Actually, lets use unfunded liabilities because that money is going to boomers too. 

 

Its fine to be happy that you worked hard.  If its true, no one can take that from you. That doesnt change the fact that the boomer population as a whole borrowed on the millenials' backs and they are trying to pretend reality away. Millenials now have to work harder for an equivalent standard of living because we're paying to support you and paying to support our idiot peers who were raised and coddled by you.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 21:30 | 7298352 nmewn
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"What was the US govt debt in the 60's?  What about now?"

I dunno about the 60's, I was ten in 1969.

"Its fine to be happy that you worked hard.  If its true, no one can take that from you."

It is true and you can fucking count on it.

"That doesnt change the fact that the boomer population as a whole borrowed on the millenials' backs and they are trying to pretend reality away."

I owe 10k on a 2012 crew cab that I will pay back, could do it tomorrow if I felt like it. I have a mortgage on a house I will not retire to, it will be sold back to the bank if no one wants it.

I will owe you and no one...nothing.

The DEBT is the governments debt, it is not mine or yours or "millennials", you need to get that shit out of your head. The government created it, not me or you. They instituted a "progressive tax" to pay it off which it failed to do, which I paid into as well and when I'm done paying taxes I'm done for life.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 22:04 | 7298492 Ballin D
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I didnt say it was your debt.  I said you benefited from it and Im paying for it.

 

Boomers are walking out of a burning house blaming the baby in the crib.

 

Mistakes were made by millions.  That happens... people are stupid.  Just dont try to rewrite history if you dont want a reality check.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 22:32 | 7298621 actionjacksonbrownie
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WTF are you talking about? I didn't benefit in any way whatsoever from all the .gov spending. You might want to turn your attention away from j6p and towards big corps, big mic, and big pharma. Anyone of any age that has worked all their lives has PAID for, not BENEFITED from .gov spending. If anything, the millenial fsa has been on the receiving end of more government largess than any generation in history!

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 03:39 | 7299341 All Risk No Reward
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Ballin D, let me introduce you to the Big Bad that not one in 1,000,000 can properly understand, let alone communicate.

The Big Bad is the Debt-Money Monopolist cartel orchestrating their debt-money societal asset stripping system upon any nation state they can conquer.

Quick, name a war started by a nation with a BIS central bank against another nation with a BIS central back... No, take your time... YOU CAN'T DO IT!

Why? Because nations that have turned over their monetary sovereignty (is there any other kind) become Debt-Money Monopolist (DMM) vassal states THAT DO WHAT THEY ARE TOLD BY THE DMM, SO THERE IS NO NEED FOR WAR.

Major wars in the 20th and 21st Century have one major characteristic... BIS central bank nations orchestrate wars against non-BIS central bank nations and, when victory is won, THEY SET UP A BIS CENTRAL BANK!

The whole thing is a farce... California government won't support a state bank because they claim to not know how to run a bank, yet al Qaeda rebels in Libya set up a central bank before they assassinated Gaddafi!

We are all debt-money slaves...

I see debt-people!

Focus on the Debt-Money Monopolists (DMM) as the Big Bad... not the people with whom you need to united to defeat the DMMs.

BTW, the debt-money fraud works like this: The DMM lends $20 to society at 5% interest so that, in one year, society owes the DMM $21 due to a double entry bookkeeping adjustment that adds $1 interest liability to society's balance sheet and $1 interest asset to the DMM balance sheet.

In one year, society has $20, owes $21, and the DMM controls the $1 required to pay the debts or else society is forced into bankruptcy.

"The one aim of the [DMM] financiers is world control through inextinguishable debt."
~Henry Ford

I gave you the mechanism, Henry Ford gave you the plan.

Oh, and a "bailout" is when the DMM lends $20 into existence, puts the proceeds in their corporate front pockets, and sends society the bill for $21 even though they have $0... for the children, of course!

"The truth will set you free, but it will make you miserable first."
~James Garfield

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 10:07 | 7299875 Dancing Disraeli
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All Risk-- I've seen this concept addressed many times, but this is the most succinct and easy to comprehend description of how this scam "works".  Thank you.

Fri, 03/18/2016 - 20:29 | 7333608 All Risk No Reward
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Double D, I'm glad it was of value to you. Little would please me more than you replicating it to help others comprehend our true condition.

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 03:56 | 7299351 not dead yet
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Millenial whiners who read the story and it went over their heads that it was about them. What's next boomers hiding in the closet or under the bed waiting for them to go to sleep so as to ravage them. Maybe we should declare a jungle war somewhere and reinstate the draft for these geniuses to bring reality into their life. Gullible pieces of crap blaming other people for their own problems and afraid of the future because they are the biggest pussies around and willing to follow and parrot crooks who use them for their own agenda. When those jobs went overseas or the goverment pissed away trillions on wars and the MIC we didn't get a vote. Sure we got a vote on election day but if you think that counted for anything you're dumber than a box of rocks. The parties control all and anyone you elect will tow the party line or the party makes sure they never get reelected. When they have enough seniority to accomplish anything they are corrupt and enjoy it and will continue to do the parties bidding to keep the gravy train rolling. If you think the boomers ruined everything give back your Iphones, Ipods, computers, flat screens, the internet, dvd and blueray, bluetooth, safer more reliable cars, longer lifespan, cleaner air, cleaner water, instead of owning the bus you can send the blacks to the back of the bus and have colored only bathrooms water fountains lunch counters and entrances, get women out of the professions and back into the home "where they belong", bring back the draft. Yeah us boomers only made everything worse. Not. As far as the wars and terrorism of the last 50 years it's all courtesy of the elite of the greatest generation even the latest ones as we work off the polices of Wolfowitz and Brehzinski. Yeah we really fucked up your lives alright. Not. Just because the boomers have a few bucks in the bank after spending most of it on you spoiled whiners you're pissed that they don't kill themselves so you can have it all. Social Security has plenty of money into the future and can be strengthend with changes in the law. Anyone who falls for that unfunded liability crap has got to be the most ignorant person on the planet. You're willingly being used for someone elses agenda that counts future POSSIBLE outlays only but not counting any funds flowing into the program. It's not a liability under it is due so to say somesones SS in the year 2033 is a liability today is stupid. Bottom line is grow up, the world is changing, and deal with it like all humans have since they inhabited the earth. You're not entitiled to anything no matter how special you think you are.

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 10:41 | 7300018 Rigger
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Go fuck yourself. This shit happened on your watch. You complain about whiney bitching millenials, the whole time deploring them for not railing against a system that you sat idly by and watched being instated. Fuck you hypocrite. Keep coddling yourself with the 'It's not MY fault' mantra... you gutless scum sucking fuckwit.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 11:54 | 7300299 detached.amusement
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Please refer to Al Gore's note about the internet making it kinda hard to keep "things that should be secret"....secret.

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 06:21 | 7299449 Frankie Carbone
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Balan's right. I am on the cusp of being a boomer (very early GenX) and back in the day, as early as I could vote, I did the math and said "my generation is screwed, and our children's generation is really going to take it in the shorts".

The problem that I see too often in discussions, and ZH is not much different in this regard, is that people are black and white thinkers, generally lazy in the intellect department, and tend to desire to wrap up problems and issues into single, neat, identifiable boogeymen. 

For GenX and Boomers, the problem is lazy, bratty millennials that want their silver spoon. 

For millennials it's the Boomers and Genx, who squandered a solvent society for their own selfish sakes. 

The reality is that BOTH are correct, and for some reason, people have a tough time accepting an answer that is gray. 

The worst part is that black and white thinking is programmed into everyone. See, while the generations are fighting each other, the looters are sneaking into another room in your homes. 

Nice job folks. 

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 08:06 | 7299567 noless
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They're all pretty retarded, I finally got fired from my bullshit service job, I am extremely excited to test out this 4.9% unemployment rate economy, jobs I have the training and experience for are advertising wages nearly three times what I was making five years ago.

 

There's literally no way shit could be going any better for me than it is right now.

 

The "entitled millennial" bullshit usually comes from people who had to raise daughters in middle to upper income families, I couldn't give a fuck less what they think.

 

 

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 06:20 | 7299448 mc225
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or, you could get a government job and 'own' a house.

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 07:10 | 7299484 French Bloke
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Dunno which bozo's marked you down SSR but you are spot on. But don't worry, all those millenials (and everyone else for that matter) will get plenty of experience on their homefront battlefields fighting for the final scraps against the imported religion of peace et al when it all goes to rat shit - those that survive the first onslaught, that is...

WW3 will not be country v country. It will be culture v culture within national bounderies but mainly in the Western World. God help us!

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 08:43 | 7299641 sessinpo
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Stainless Steel Rat

6.) You will never have the resources to have children.

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Since when did resources have anything to do with having children? Certainly not in the last 50 years.

Just get knocked up and get on welfare like the rest. /sarc

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 20:00 | 7297922 boogerbently
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I think I'm done with ZH.

You inmates have taken over the asylum.

Buy bitcoins, morons. Hah

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 21:44 | 7298416 Nutsack
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later, Dick

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 06:25 | 7299454 Frankie Carbone
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He's right. Some real non-thinking douchetards have invaded a place of reason and sanity and basically soiled the joint. We've asked Tyler to please stop posting Trump porn, as it is attracting the mindless cattle, but the insult on the site continues with 2,3, sometimes 4 pieces of Trump obscenity per day. So now the mindless herd has wandered in, looking for a place to circlejerk while shooting up their Hopium. I used to take an hour to read all the great thoughts in a comment section. Now it takes me an hour to sift through all of the delusional garbage to get to the handful of good posts, and they are disappearing by the day. 

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 22:16 | 7298562 Jeff Lebowski
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What are you doing down here in the comment section, anyway? The article is up above. You should know better.

Because there's nothing down here but boomers arguing with children and grandchildren of boomers about stealing the future generations money. Which, as a parent, is confusing. All my money goes to providing a better life for my kid than I have.

A circular argument, one that won't be solved with emotion in a comment section.

The dude abides.

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 19:14 | 7297774 Walt
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"While I agree millennials are an incredibly entitled generation(and yes I am one) they haven't (yet) stolen the future wealth of the next couple generations"

Yes. Only because they haven't had the chance YET. Give it time.

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 02:35 | 7299279 The Navigator
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Give it Time?

Sorry Walt, the clock reads 11:59:57 and there's no more road for the can to be kicked down.

The RESET is this month, next month, sometime this year. And it's gonna be like nothing anybody has ever seen.

The Central Bankers have run out rabbits to pull out of their hats and there's only 1 end to this story.

Gather your family; the WWII gens, the boomers, & millenials - you're gonna need each other to survive the coming shit storm.

And when that happens, there will be no talk of boomers v. millenials - talk will all be about what you killed/fished/gathered for dinner.

Stack like there's no tomorrow.

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 03:29 | 7299337 Seek_Truth
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Very prescient of you.

I happen to agree.

The boy who cried wolf was proved right- eventually.

Now is that time.

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 06:28 | 7299459 Frankie Carbone
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Jesus. We're not talking about a run-off-the-mill, twice a century economic collapse here. We're talking about precedence of epic proportion. Someone could warn about it 5000 times, and if the .01% risk, "can't possibly happen" , happens then it is not crying wolf. Nor, in hindsight, will you think that the odds were .01% to begin with. 

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 11:59 | 7300317 detached.amusement
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Odds act funny when combined with the exponential function

Thu, 03/10/2016 - 21:31 | 7298319 Liberty2012
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@greenskeeper carl - grow up, very few have everything handed to them

If being clueless non-responsible non-thinking cry babies is not stealing the future, then what is?

I am between the boomers and the millennialis. The main fault of the boomers is the same as the general population - the inability to see the root cause, and inherent danger, of central control.

It takes quite a lot of concentrated effort to see it because you don't want to believe that some very powerful people either don't care about, or actively despise, humanity and civilization. Most just don't see it. It's the ones who know full well what they're doing and dont give a damn that are incomprehensible. In my opinion, they have no appreciation for the beauty of life. They have no desire to have a soul.

Stop playing the divide and conquer blame game. Listen to everyone, appreciate what they are trying to say, and share what you know.

People working together and sharing ideas always works - it's the foundation of civilization.

Fri, 03/11/2016 - 06:30 | 7299460 Frankie Carbone
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Perfectly said. THIS is the central problem with today's voter. 

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