How to Act Compassionately Towards Transgender People: Do Not Encourage a Delusion

Via The Daily Bell

I’m not allowed to say what I am about to say, according to the mainstream media.

They claim the only reason I would make this argument is that I am full of hate.

The truth is, I don’t want to see the media dupe people with a mental health condition into making destructive decisions.

I came across a news story about an entire family in transition. First, the son began a transition to female, and then the daughter to male, followed by their mother to male. The mother then met someone transitioning to female, and they are now engaged.

Is it “wrong” to say, mother, son, and daughter? Is that now considered “hate speech”? It is almost impossible to coherently discuss transgender issues without running afoul of politically correct speech.

All I know is that I had to read the article twice to understand who started as male, who was female, and what they now identified as. Already politically correct speech is clouding the ability to convey basic facts.

The Media Bullies Anyone Who Wants to Have a Rational Discussion

CNN invited Ben Shapiro on as a stand-in punching bag to discuss Caitlyn Jenner. This was in 2016 just after Jenner won some award for being super brave about transitioning.


Do you see the way they all team up on Shapiro and try to beat him into submission? They tell him he is full of hate. They say he is angry inside. They bully him. They yell at him.

And the strong-jawed person with long blond hair sitting next to Shapiro threatens him with violence while laying hands on him saying, “You cut that out now, or you’ll go home in an ambulance.”

What the hell is going on?

Shapiro is simply trying to have a discussion about biology and sex. He can’t even get his point out because all the other guests attack him for using the correct words to describe objectively true facts.

What is accepted as true on CNN is the statement, “We both know, that the chromosomes do not necessarily mean that you are male or female.”

But in the real world of biology, that is exactly what that means.

Yet the public is supposed to accept the falsity without protest, or even discussion. Shapiro was threatened with violence for asking a transgender person what chromosomes are present in their cells. The message is if you don’t want to be singled out and bullied, accept what we tell you as the truth.

The media uses phrases like “gender confirmation surgery” and “sex assigned at birth.”

A surgery which changes superficial indicators of sex confirms your gender. A biological fact at birth is an arbitrary assignment.

What Does the Science Really Say?

Make no mistake, the people pushing all this confusion are not at all consistent nor scientific.

They say that gender is a social construct that can be chosen. That is redefining what the word gender means, but fine. We can make a distinction between gender (cultural expression of sex) and sex (biological anatomy).

So then who cares if a boy likes dresses and tea parties, and a girl likes getting dirty and playing video games?

But the media isn’t done. They turn around and say you can change your biological sex to match your gender expression.

This is not true.

They can redefine the word gender to refer to stereotypical expressions of sex. But they cannot ignore the science that sex is defined by the chromosomes in your cells.

You can’t even get an accurate picture of any science behind gender dysphoria from supposedly scientific publications. They join in to blur the lines between science and propaganda.

National Geographic ran a story exploring the lives of transgender children. Except that they also throw in a case of a chromosomal condition where a child is born with both male and female genitalia. Another case details an enzyme deficiency which causes a child’s sexual organs to appear female until puberty when a surge of testosterone causes the male development of the sexual organs.

These conditions are real medical anomalies which blur the biological lines between the male and female sex. They are entirely different from the mental condition in which people self-identify as the opposite sex but show absolutely no physical attributes of that sex.

I don’t doubt that these people feel like the opposite sex. They are allowed to feel and act as they wish.

What they cannot do is force me to play along. They cannot force me to ignore science, and pretend that they are capable of becoming the opposite sex. They cannot force people to lie to their children and teach them that you can switch from one sex to the other. You cannot.

But you can go to extremes in how you express your gender. This includes irreversible mutilation meant to make your genitals look like those of the opposite sex. This also includes barely tested hormones and drugs which could very well cause serious health issues.

The media is helping to push life-altering drugs and surgery on people, including children.

The media is convincing people to make decisions they may regret, and imbibe substances that are untested, and carry serious risks.

And the media’s lies about the science behind “gender reassignment surgery” is making life harder for people with the mental condition called gender dysphoria.

What is Going on Here?

It all seems like an elaborate test to see how easy it is to control people. When the news says jump, we are supposed to say how high. There is to be no discussion of science, and no room for dissenting opinions.

I agree with Ben Shapiro. There is no hatred in my opinion. I don’t even have a problem with adults transitioning if that is what they want to do. I believe in freedom, so I would never want to restrict any individual’s action that doesn’t hurt anyone else.

But I think the media is using and abusing people with a serious mental health issue.

I don’t think the “solutions” put forward are healthy. And I will not be bullied into joining a mass delusion about the ability to change sexes.

I won’t join in and encourage transgender people to get surgery and take drugs that are dangerous. I certainly won’t lie to kids about the definition of male and female.

And I believe it is child abuse to allow a kid to take hormones and mutilate their genitals in an attempt to appear as the opposite sex.

On the other hand, think parents should allow their kids the freedom to dress and act however they want. If their interests are those more typical of the opposite sex, so be it. If your son wants to wear dresses, grow his hair out, and be addressed as she, I don’t think it is crazy for a parent to allow this. By all means, let your kids express themselves freely.

But once you start giving hormones and life-altering surgery to ten-year-olds, that is child abuse.

When it comes to adults, I also have absolutely no problem with people dressing however they want to dress, and cutting their hair in whatever way they want. By all means, eschew traditional gender roles. Act the way you want to act. Honestly, who cares what other people think? Who cares what I think?

But it is from a compassionate standpoint that I urge people who identify as the opposite sex to think twice about surgery and drugs. What happened to not having to change in order to love yourself? What happened to being perfect the way you were born?

I understand that people may truly wish they had the opposite sexual organs. But it is not at this point possible to acquire functioning sexual organs of the opposite sex. You can mimic the way they look, but you cannot change your biological sex.

The Compassionate Way to Deal With Gender Dysphoria

In the transgender family, the kids wanted to express the opposite gender before the mother. So the parents do not appear to have directly influenced the kids’ gender identification. The mother claims transgenderism runs in the family. And this may very well be the case. Mental conditions are often hereditary.

But again Shapiro brings up a good point. We don’t tell schizophrenics that they are hearing real voices in their heads. That would be cruel. Instead, we attempt to help them.

The suicide rate for transgender people is alarmingly high. But Shapiro claims the rate is the same before and after a transition. That means transitioning does not alleviate mental anguish.

So is it really so crazy to think of other possible solutions?

Maybe mutilating sexual organs and taking hormones to make the body mimic the opposite sex is not the best treatment.

You cannot change the chromosomes in your body. You cannot produce sperm if you are a woman, and you cannot ovulate if you are a man. That is science. And still, when Shapiro says these things, he is called a bigot, a hate-monger, and so on and so forth.

But like Shapiro, we should not yell back at the bullies. We should not engage them at their level.

Now more than ever, rational people must stay cool, calm, and collected. This is a message of compassion, not of hate.

The media is not compassionate to transgender people suffering from mental anguish. They feed into their delusions. They encourage “solutions” that do not actually solve the problem. The media tells transgender people that they can mask their condition with surgery and drugs.

They should encourage people to get psychological help to accept themselves without altering their bodies. And they should be honest about the science behind sex changes.

Except for some rare medical disorders, you are the sex you are born.

If people want to express themselves as a gender typically associated with the opposite sex, that is their choice. I would never bully someone for that, and I sincerely hope others would treat them with respect as well.

But compassion and civility do not require the denial of biological fact.

Turning Point

Is this a deliberate attempt by the media to brainwash people? It certainly seems like a concerted effort to derail an objective discussion. It’s like they are testing how easily they can control what people say and think.

This is a crucial point where we will decide if freedom of speech and freedom of thought still exist. Will we move forward “allowed” to discuss science and mental health without being threatened with violence?

Or will we be bullied into submission, afraid to speak or even think the wrong way? Will we become thought criminals for daring to think against the mainstream viewpoint?

Labelling people as hateful for disagreeing ensures a narrow perspective. It is a way to ignore legitimate viewpoints by pretending they come from a position of ignorance and anger.

Rational people should have no problem putting emotions aside to discuss the science behind gender and sex.

Finally, why do they need my, or Ben Shapiro’s approval anyway? Why does that even matter to them? We aren’t saying they should be stopped from expressing themselves. We aren’t threatening them with violence–quite the opposite!

There are people that don’t like the way I live my life. In fact, Ben Shapiro considers certain things I do sinful. And I don’t care because I don’t need Ben Shapiro to endorse and accept every aspect of my behavior.

Live the life you want to live, and by all means resist anyone who tries to stop you. But don’t try to force others to endorse or praise your actions and beliefs.


rtb61 Dec 19, 2017 3:13 AM Permalink

There is a distinct genetic hormonal difference between men and women which affects their thinking. Now that genetic difference is more than just on or off, male or female, there is an underlying degree of on or off, how much on it is ie how much testorerone.This affects behaviour and social outcomes, our bodies controlling our brains in order to achieve reproduction. So some tend to be nearer the border or even over it, that diffence between men and women, now obviously their bodies are not at fault, they just are what they are.The difference is in society, how men are allowed to express themselves socially and how women are allowed to express themselves socially. Think behaviour, modes of dress, even speech (ignore weird religous crap). So those affected people feel they need to surgically alter themselves to express themselves in their chosen manner. Keep in mind the difference between acceptable male or female social behaviour is entirely constructed, so that effiminate men stand out as do masculine women. The problem is driven largely by of all things modern corporate marketing, pushing social values that sell product.There should be no reason why a person of one particular style of genitals needs to socially express themselves in marketing defined gender patterns, keep in mind this is nothing to do with male/female social interactions, just styles of public behaviour, clothing and speech. How floofy you dress as a man, should be your choice, a pretty sun dress with a flower bedecked bonnet, your choice (toga, kilt) but it is not your choice, it is a choice of marketing and government (keep in mind my dress choice in a warm climate Adelaide Australia is black shorts, polo shirt and thongs Of course a women can dress like a man without challenge but a man will be challenged and ridiculed especially by women.So whether you are male or female should no impact your behaviour, clothing or speech, as much as it does, right over the top and that psychologically damages genetically affected people more than it should and hence damages and they make strange decisions about their bodies rather than accepting them and of course accepting their body should not define their place in society, their behaviour, their clothing choices or their allowed speech (beyond age, there are real sound reasons why age should affect your place in society).One of the original reasons why the human male/female/children social pattern was to extort the male with the death of their family when serving in ernich the ruler military caimpagn in other regions ie fuck the war, why should I die to make you richer because if you don't I will kill your family. This does not work where children ie families are not tied to a specific male female bond but to that community as a whole and the parentage doesn't matter (again opposed by a single autocratic ruler, the damage of psychopathy on early man).

Fireman Dec 19, 2017 3:11 AM Permalink

First they said there were no boys and no girlsthen they said there were no males and no femalesthen they said there were no men and no womenFinally it was clear that their transgender madness had mutated into an orwellian farm where the herd could be penned and culled at will by the livestock "owners". There are men and women who may or may not happen to be fags and dykes, pedos and psychos....the rest is BS.Say no to mutants mutating in public; it simply is not healthy to willfully infect humanity with delusions. Mother Nature knows better than the nutters.

Groucho Dec 19, 2017 2:39 AM Permalink

Perhaps it was John Wayne who said...

“cutting off your Johnson doesn’t make you lady. It just makes you a fella without a Johnson.”

vietnamvet Dec 18, 2017 11:35 PM Permalink

"What they cannot do is force me to play along." but that's exactly what you are trying to do, force others to play along with your fucking bullshit.  Here's a concept: how someone expresses their identity is NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS.BTW, I know plenty of transgender people whose only "delusions" arise out of having to deal with binary gendering fuckwards like you.  They are PERFECTLY HAPPY with their identity and generally could frankly give a fuck about what folks like you think about them, except when your fucking thoughts turn into bullying and discrimination.The good news is that young people generally get it: their identity is THEIR BUSINESS and they don't give a rat's ass how someone else expresses their identity.Get over it, fuckwad, and mind your own fucking business, and the world will be a much happier place for all of us.

chippers Dec 18, 2017 11:15 PM Permalink

No kidding,  had not thought about trannys that much at all,  then suddenly last year trannys were everywhere,  there really does seem to be coordinated push by MSM....  its not like  trannys make for good TV (pun not intended) for anyone but the most perverted... why the tranny explosion???

GoinFawr chippers Dec 18, 2017 11:42 PM Permalink

Confirmation bias?j/kRM said it: sex sells, weird sex sells at least as much. We're physically hard wired for the act. Which is why so many who practice strict abstinence eventually go insane, like being without sleep for too long, but longer, and stupider, sometimes tragically.What, you think money cares how it's made? Such people have always existed in a tiny number, who can/do they really harm other than themselves? let them be.

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lakabarra Dec 18, 2017 10:06 PM Permalink

How many trangender people did everyone here meet in their lifes? Probably less than 0.5% of all the people you met, probably much less than that. Why this hype then? It is easy to be nice to these few ones and try to make life easy for them.If I had a boy who would like to dress like a girl I would say no. Simply because in most children this is a transient phase and I would not like that his mates say or think he's a weirdo. If he would do so if he's say 16 I would accept it.  I think even for adults the surgery should not be allowed. How many stupid decisions did you do in your life? Learn the wrong profession do something else, marry the wrong partner get separated, but this can't be undone, and probably people sufferong from feeling transgender do have mental health issues and are vulnerable. i don't want to put them down but only feeling different than everyone else does have an impact.

newworldorder lakabarra Dec 18, 2017 11:25 PM Permalink

Few are trying to 'put them down' but most do insist on legal and social constructs.EXAMPLE:  LGBT-Q are a US EEOC Protected class.That means preferences for Education and Job opportunities vs, white workers who do not have those protections. And that is one example of many of how transgender expectations have a bearing on life in America.  What happens in work issues with a transgender, and the ramifications that might occur if a non-transgender individual says something allegedly wrong,  before they have the opportunity to attend the social indoctrination school, as prescribed by the "transgender and LGBT-Q Community" and many HR departments.

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overmedicatedu… Dec 18, 2017 9:59 PM Permalink

the sickness of many of those trapped in this transgender it is all about must be all about them..we must all acknowledge their specialnessand most importantly - others must be inconvienced by them..ergo special gender names, bathroom insanity , and laws always lawyers in black robes to enforce it all

GoinFawr overmedicatedu… Dec 18, 2017 10:43 PM Permalink

What a drama queen. A 'weapon' to make you do what exactly? Act like a decent human being? Treat someone else with the same respect you would expect from them for you and yours? Oh, the horror! I mean if you are worried the big bad gov't is going to make you put a dick on, relax, that isn't going to happen.Next you'll be complaining about libel and slander legislation; unless you yourself and thou feel defamed, naturally, because then it's all about whom again?

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are we there yet Dec 18, 2017 9:49 PM Permalink

There are many ways to be be crazy. All of those ways want to be called normal, but they are still crazy, or at least dysfunctional in real life. In my crazy fantasy I want to be a swashbuckling pirate capturing Spanish gallions filled with helpless princesses for me to ravage. As a mild mannered physicist in real life I would be arrested as a pirate. In real life Bruce Jenner is just a broken puppie that nutered itself.

any_mouse Dec 18, 2017 9:04 PM Permalink

Appearance is not the same as Substance.

If one is not comfortable in their body, altering the body's appearance won't make any change over the long term.

No matter where you go, you are still you, just you in a different place.

But happy, comfortable, contented people don't need daily medication, aren't shopaholics, aren't constantly seeking external validation. Not the Consumers that Corporations need.

overmedicatedu… Dec 18, 2017 8:58 PM Permalink

transgenderism is what again?? put it right up there with scientology or islam..gotta be nuts or nut less i guess to "Understand"goinferry understands cause well..goin is nuts.

Pernicious Gol… Dec 18, 2017 8:54 PM Permalink

He doesn't discuss the enormous amounts of money the industry makes off these people. The ghouls have huge incentives to mutilate people with surgery and destroy their psyches with "transgender counseling."

Storm-Clouds Dec 18, 2017 8:45 PM Permalink


Bite my clank.....

Ah shit it fell off.......

The things that happen to the dead......


Let’s vote on it.....your call Male/Female/Trans or all of the above........

Lump Dec 18, 2017 8:21 PM Permalink

This may be reaching but I've always seen gender transition as a form of suicidewhere individuals in pain "do away with themselves" in order to becom a new and differentperson in the most total way possible...a sort of rebirth.  Does it work? You'd have to ask someonelike Catlyn Jenner if she's any more at peace with herself now than before the transformation. 

RKae Dec 18, 2017 8:03 PM Permalink

Their use of hermaphrodites in their argument is absurd.Some people are born without legs.That doesn't make legs a social construct.It makes being born without them a birth defect.

Kina Dec 18, 2017 8:02 PM Permalink

I think the best thing for parents in the US is to send their kids to a South Korea, Japan, HK or China school.You will never get any of this leftard shit over there.Truthfull, I am not joking. If you can afford to, do it.

zimboe GoinFawr Dec 18, 2017 8:59 PM Permalink

I am an American expat in China. I never seen any oppression here.If you don't contest the Party's authority, they leave you alone- to a greater degree by far than in 'Murka.If you do contest the Party's authority, they will fuck with you, but not severely. Mainly they will tell you to quit your damn sniveling and STHU. It's basically bullshit control, not oppression...America MSM and gov continually slander China (Look! Squirrel!) as they know China is an intact culture not poisoned by the strange Western Disease that has ruined the West, and America is terminally infected by this rampant bullshititis....This place works. The cops are cool. It's safe. The people are nice.America doesn't work. The cops are dangerous cowboys/oppressors/occupying army. Its dangerous. the people are self-centered panicky garbageheads.Please note the above pertains largely to the cities(democrats).So Solly. 

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Kina GoinFawr Dec 18, 2017 8:25 PM Permalink

You know absolutely nothing about those countries and your statement makes you no different from a leftard, founded in ignorance.How about you don't get your information from the MSMI know quite a bit about all those countries as I had and have family living in all of them. Or Otherwise maybe you were talking about the USA?  Sounded like it.

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GoinFawr Kina Dec 18, 2017 9:35 PM Permalink

"You know absolutely nothing about those countries and your statement makes you no different from a leftard, founded in ignorance"If you say soYou know absolutely nothing about where I get my information from, and your statement makes you no different from a Chinese propagandist, pounding the table for fascism.See how that works?

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Kina Dec 18, 2017 7:58 PM Permalink

Genetically you are eith male, female or maybe hermaphrodite.Your DNA would idetify you to some future scientist as being one or the other.The same scientist may then study your personal life, the activity of your thinking, and determine that you tried to operate as an alternate to your biological gender.Genetically - male or femaleSocially - male or female - the reasons for which are for others to discuss. So long as you are sane, act in a rational calm and responsible way when dealing with me, I don't care what you identify as; so long as you dont fuck with my life over it.Secretly I may think you are mentally twisted, but then again, thats your problem, not mine.

PotusNextus Dec 18, 2017 7:44 PM Permalink

wHY? Transgender forced social normalization is a coverup of Bisphenol pollution in the diet of humans. Turtles change gender in BPA polluted waters for example.BPA is the modern thalidomide. Why? Because facing up to the fact that transgenders so called are actually chemically induce genetically damagedhumans would open every food and drink and baby food company to total destruction by law suits. So everyone is forced to believe a now commonphenomenon which simply didn't exist 30 years ago is 'normal' and gay and lesbians in their utter cofusion about sexuality take them under their wingwhen they should know full well psychiatry simply made the case for the 'normalcy' of gay behavior as a political decision to protect them from discrimiation with nobasis in medicine or biology to claim homosexuals are normal in the sense of 'the norm' but rather nomal only in as 'that happens.'

tailgunner Dec 18, 2017 7:26 PM Permalink

The people who are angry at those who do not go along with this madness are in level 3 arrogance.  It does not allow for any thought but that of themselves.  Everyone else is wrong. They will never admit they are wrong even if cold hard evidence is given to them.  These people are on the threshold of insanitly, and should be avoided in any conversation.  They fight to protect their opinion as it is the building blocks now of their being.  They will damage you if you corner them.  Just be aware of their potential to violence, as they have blocked all rational thought.  It is not a nice picture, and if they go full arrogance, then they are insane.We sink deeper into a country of mental illness.

RKae Dec 18, 2017 7:19 PM Permalink

I've read many an article (or comment under an article) that expresses all these same concepts, and utterly wihtout fail, they have to throw in "I'm all for people doing whatever they want; hey, if they want to dress up or dress their children up, who cares?"What if that is just a fashion of philosophy as much as all this tranny nonsense?What if, in libertarian zeal, it's killing civilization just like everything else, but we can't "be mean," because... well, because we JUST KNOW that our tolerance is right?What if we actually need to make a stand and we're failing?What if...?

RKae Dec 18, 2017 7:22 PM Permalink

The people who are letting us all down are the scientists and doctors.They like to puff themselves up and go on and on (and on and on, and on and on, and ON AND ON) about Galileo being persecuted by the Church. "Galileo, man! What about Galileo?!! HUH?!! Religion is evil, man! Because: GALILEO!"So, if science is so sacred to them and we never want to see the whole Galileo thing happen again, then why do they all so easily bow to the popular culture?Why do they allow their sacred quest for facts be hijacked by fashions of thought?WHERE THE HELL are the doctors who told us 40 years ago that you should never have anal sex because it damages people? When I was in health class, we were rightly told that an anus is NOT a suitable substitute for a vagina. The vagina is made for that action. The anus is not.But all those doctors were forced to shut up by the gay lobby... and they went along with it.Science is going down without a fight in so many arenas it ain't funny.But, like some weak old man who won the Super Bowl way back in the past, whenever they want to feel proud, they can still sneer at churchgoers and yell "GALILEO!"So they got that goin' for them.